after the long wedding day, the man is very tired,
what should he do to prevent fallin asleep ?
is it very practical to make sex with the wife on the first wedding night?
HERE ARE FEW ANSWERS .....
(1) You can do what you need to do....
I think that is up to the couple. When we got married, I was suprised that were finding that a lot of books on getting married said that many couples don't do that on their wedding night for the very reasons you have stated. I know that friends of ours shared that they simply fell asleep as soon as they got to the hotel and then dealt with things the next morning. It's not un-manly if you have worked for weeks to get this wedding to happen, been up for days with friends, probably got up at 5am the day of the service, got married, had the reception - get to the room at 1am and pass out. It happens to more people than will admit it.If you want to make sure that happens, then drink a lot of coffee, stay away from (or drink less of) the alcohol, and there you go...
Another thing, it might be important for the groom to discuss this with the bride to be. She probably has some thoughts on the matter.
(2) Love your new wife.......
I've been married twice and so had two wedding nights, I think I can offer some advice.
First, you're young and there is no reason for you to be that tired that you can't make love to your wife. The only reason you couldn't would be if you drank too much at the wedding. There is no reason to drink that much! Pace yourself throughout the evening and if you turn down a drink or two toward the end of the affair everyone will understand. It will be a very busy day for you so you don't need to drink all that much. Even if you're not young there is no need to drink so much that it ruins the wedding night.
If she is anything like every bride I've ever known she is looking forward to the wedding night. She has purchased or been given special lingerie and she deserves to wear it and have a memorable night.
A wedding isn't just another party and the wedding night isn't just another sexual encounter. (I'm assuming that you have had sex before the wedding as I answer this question.) This is the first time you will be together when you truly belong to each other. This is special. This is the time to make her feel like a cherished gift from god. She is your treasure and she has made you the greatest gift of her life and her love. This night is your first, and most memorable, time to impress upon her that you do love her and are grateful for who she is. You'll have sex many times in your life together but this is one time that you'll both always remember.
I have just one bit of advice on the sex. Make the encounter about her pleasure not yours. Get control of yourself and make sure she has her pleasure several times before you worry about yours. Going the extra mile and being unselfish on this night will pay off with huge dividends throughout your marriage.
And...if you fall asleep you're just being self. If you're being selfish on your wedding night what kind of a husband will you be to her throught your years together?
First, you're young and there is no reason for you to be that tired that you can't make love to your wife. The only reason you couldn't would be if you drank too much at the wedding. There is no reason to drink that much! Pace yourself throughout the evening and if you turn down a drink or two toward the end of the affair everyone will understand. It will be a very busy day for you so you don't need to drink all that much. Even if you're not young there is no need to drink so much that it ruins the wedding night.
If she is anything like every bride I've ever known she is looking forward to the wedding night. She has purchased or been given special lingerie and she deserves to wear it and have a memorable night.
A wedding isn't just another party and the wedding night isn't just another sexual encounter. (I'm assuming that you have had sex before the wedding as I answer this question.) This is the first time you will be together when you truly belong to each other. This is special. This is the time to make her feel like a cherished gift from god. She is your treasure and she has made you the greatest gift of her life and her love. This night is your first, and most memorable, time to impress upon her that you do love her and are grateful for who she is. You'll have sex many times in your life together but this is one time that you'll both always remember.
I have just one bit of advice on the sex. Make the encounter about her pleasure not yours. Get control of yourself and make sure she has her pleasure several times before you worry about yours. Going the extra mile and being unselfish on this night will pay off with huge dividends throughout your marriage.
And...if you fall asleep you're just being self. If you're being selfish on your wedding night what kind of a husband will you be to her throught your years together?
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